Relationship's

What defines a relationship between a male and female?
A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship. People that are in an intimate relationship with one another are often called a couple, especially if the members of that couple have ascribed some degree of permanency to their relationship. Such couples often provide the emotional security that is necessary for them to accomplish other tasks, particularly forms of labor/work.
Love is an important factor in physical and emotional intimate relationships. Though the term is notoriously difficult to define, any thoughtful inquiry into the subject will show it to be qualitatively, not only quantitatively, different than intimacy, and the difference is not merely in the presence or absence of sexual attraction. According to one analysis, love in relationships is divided into two types: passionate and companionate. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal(shortness of breath, rapid heart rate) Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy and is not necessarily accompanied by physiological arousal.
http://www.ascensionlovespirituality.com/Starbuilders/IntimateRelationships.htm

In reading this it has me wondering, do we truly enter into relationships based on needs and desires at the time?

When we enter into a new relationship, there are all these warm fuzzy feelings that come with it. Maybe it was the coffee, or the smell of her perfume, who knows, but they are there. Over time as the relationship grows, and we enter into sexual relationships, it opens a whole other realm. Those warm fuzzies tend to fade a bit.
For me, I think this is when we enter into choice. We choose whom we want to invest ourselves in. We choose to accept this person as our mate. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. Now we live in a society where divorce is a common everyday escape. After a bit, you can get out. Did you know you can receive an online divorce now? What happened to making a commitment to someone and staying in that commitment? The quest for self discovery and happiness is important, and by no means should anyone stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of commitment. Can you build your desires and shape your happiness around the current relationship? Can you take the good and expand it while taking the bad and shaping it, molding it to meet your needs?
We tend to build several types of relationships. We have them with friends, neighbors, co-workers, and lover's. We adapt to the relationship and share only what is needed, and give freely when appropriate. In building these relationships, they soon start to help shape who we want to be. By the support we receive it assists us in our own journey of life.

Keep in mind, these are just my opinions, thoughts from my head, and by means not scientifically proven!

I can't help but wonder, where would I be now if it wasn't for certain individuals whom have crossed my path.

I recently had to fill out a detailed account of my job history, school history and family history. It caused a little bit of stress. I was required to give names of those I went to high school with. Someone Who knew me. I drew a blank. The one person whom really knew me, is no longer alive. She was killed in a car/train accident 14 years ago. She was my best friend. My confidant, and the only one I could think of. I did have a few other friends, but, I haven't seen them in years. After the accident, I walked away. From everyone, and everything. Do I regret that? No. I don't.

What if?

What if I hadn't walked away? Would I still be friends with those individuals whom called me friend at the time? Would I be married to the same individual? Would I still have my girls?
Who knows! I do know this though. I still got what I needed from those friends, it still shaped who I choose to be today.

As I have grown older, I have come to realize it is not the amount of friends you have, it is the quality of those friends. The quality of the relationships. So, can you have passionate relationships with friends? Can you have intimate relationships with friends? Or are these only acceptable in a "marriage"? Of course then my brain goes to, why does society get to say what is acceptable and what is not.
Individual choice. I make my choices. I choose what I think is best for me. I do not want society to dictate my relationships, nor do I want society to tell me what I am doing is wrong.
If the relationships I am building now help me to become a better person tomorrow, so be it. After all, my life goal is to become the best person I can be. What footprints I leave behind matter the most to me.
Society, will not even miss me when I am gone. Nor will they ever know my name. Those I choose to share my life's journey will, they will remember me..........